Being a sugar daddy is one of the most enjoyable things that could happen to an older, unencumbered man. Past a certain age, when your kids are all grown up and you are otherwise unattached, having a sugar baby could be just the thing to add some spice back into your life.
But not everyone is cut out to be a sugar daddy. Even if you feel that you tick all the boxes and that you are ideally suited for the sugar dating lifestyle, there could be a number of factors in your life that make it a less-than-optimal course of action.
One thing you have to realize is that your appropriateness for the sugar daddy life is almost entirely a personal matter. In most cases, only you can determine whether or not the lifestyle is truly for you and that you can make a decent go of it. These tips should help you determine if you are truly cut to become a sugar daddy or if fate has another path laid out for you.
What it means to be a sugar daddy
You probably already have a good idea of what being a sugar daddy entails and what your roles and responsibilities are. If not–or if you need some kind if refresher–you should know that the number one responsibility of a sugar daddy is to pay the bill. For better or worse, your main role is that of the money man.
Sugar dating relationships are set up in such a way that you as the sugar daddy pay for the services provided by a sugar baby, who is typically a young and attractive woman. In return for footing the bill, your sugar baby commits to providing you with companionship, affection (or a facsimile), and possibly sexual privileges. That is the most fundamental structure of a sugar dating relationship, and your own arrangement will likely revolve around this model.
Of course, there are variances and a myriad other facets to any relationship, and sugar dating is no different. Even with your role as provider to your sugar baby’s “beneficiary”, you may each be expected to fulfill other roles and responsibilities. Your sugar baby may assume more of a girlfriend or wife role, while you may be anything from a boyfriend to a husband, to a father figure, or more. In some cases, you and your sugar baby may be expected to fulfill all of these roles.
Awareness of your roles and responsibilities is crucial in ensuring harmony within the relationship. If you know what you are getting into and you commit to playing your part, you already have the basis of a solid relationship in the works.
How to know if sugar dating is right for you
So how do you determine if you are indeed sugar daddy material? Some of the clues may lie in your willingness to fulfill your responsibilities. If you have read the previous section and you haven’t run away screaming yet, it is safe to say that the responsibilities expected of a sugar daddy are something that you don’t find totally objectionable. Going a step further, if you actually look forward to fulfilling all those roles and more, you are probably ready to make the commitment to enter into a sugar dating relationship.
Readiness to become a sugar daddy is more than just about your willingness to participate in such a union. You will also have to make sure that there are no obstacles that are in the way of you hooking up with your special someone.
When you might not be ready to be a sugar daddy
Obviously, if the thought of having to fulfill the aforementioned responsibilities has you breaking out in a cold sweat, it would probably be wise to hold off on making any big decisions. Remember that those are only a few of the things that you have to do in order be part of a successful and mutually beneficial partnership, so if you are hesitant to go any further right now, you probably aren’t cut out for this lifestyle.
External factors may also affect the feasibility of you becoming a sugar daddy. If you are still reeling from the effects of a messy divorce, it is probably a good idea to let the dust settle before you plunge headlong into the sugar dating pool. This is even more important if you have young children who are likely already dealing with the upheaval of your recent marital woes. While you do have a right to be happy and to be able to pick up the pieces of your life as soon as possible, you surely realize how much more important it is to ensure the well-being of your children by sparing them from further trauma.
Testing the waters
If you don’t have any of those factors to deal with–or you have addressed them satisfactorily–it might be time for you to test the sugar dating waters. Try setting up a profile in a few sugar dating websites and get a feel for the scene. Check out the listing available for sugar babies in your area, and send out a few feelers. At this point, you are simply familiarizing yourself with the market, so don’t rush into things or expect to be able to hook up right away. Simply send out a few ‘likes’ or a few noncommittal messages and take it from there.
Going all in
Once you have gotten familiar with the sugar dating scene, you can focus your efforts more toward finding a suitable partner. Your initial forays into this exciting new world would probably have given you a good idea of the types of woman that are out there, and a few would have hopefully made you feel a twinge of some sort. After a brief period of getting to know each other online, you will soon be ready to meet up for an actual physical encounter. From there, anything can happen, and you could be well on your way to becoming a sugar daddy just like you have always wanted!