Now that you have hooked up with a wonderful young sugar baby, you may be thinking that it’s all good times and romps in the hay from here. Life seems like it couldn’t get any better, and you are probably looking forward to all the hours that you will be spending together in sugar dating bliss.
But you should be aware that it’s not all a walk in the park. There will be moments of bliss and ecstasy to be sure, but there will also be countless hours spent in wondering “where does it go from here?” Boredom has a way of creeping into any relationship, and it may not be long before you are chomping at the bit and thinking of what to do next.
Just like any other relationship, keeping things fresh and vibrant is the key to having a successful sugar dating relationship with your sugar baby. You will have to put in a considerable amount of work in order to ensure that you are both happy and satisfied within the bounds of your relationship. You will also need to respect each other enough to give one another room to grow in the relationship in order to prevent stagnancy from setting in.
In this article, we go over a few ways by which you can keep the fire burning for an extended period.
Knowing your sugar baby’s interests
When you take on a sugar baby, you are essentially making room in your life for someone else…at least that is the general idea. You will actually be partnering with a living, breathing human being who has her own likes, interests, passions, and so on. It is therefore your responsibility to not only know what these are, but also to enable her to enjoy them within your relationship.
If you have taken the time to get to know your sugar baby prior to hooking up with her, you probably already have a good idea of what her interests are. This should give you basis to form a relationship in which she has the freedom to enjoy herself. If not, then you have your work cut out for you.
Ask your sugar baby about any hobbies or passions she may have. If there is something that even mildly resonates with you, it might be something that you two could share together.
Of course there is a chance that your sugar baby may be reticent to share her interests with you, particularly if there is a considerable age gap between you both. It would then be up to you to try to draw her out and get her more comfortable with expressing herself. You don’t want to be too pushy, but let her know in definitive terms that you are interested in getting to know more about her.
What you like doing
You will naturally need to have room to enjoy yourself as well. If you are the strong-willed and opinionated type, there is little chance that you will not be able to enjoy yourself within the bounds of your relationship. In fact, the risk then might be that you will come across as too domineering and overbearing, and that you will be overly concerned only with your own interests.
If on the other hand you are reluctant to share your interests with your sugar baby, it might be helpful to determine why that is. Are you hesitant to have other people get too close to you? Would you prefer to keep your personal life separate from your sugar dating relationship? Neither scenario is likely to make for a mutually beneficial relationship, so you may have some issues of your own to work on.
Meeting each other halfway
A good relationship is oftentimes built on balance and mutual respect. It might be to both your advantages to work toward a common ground wherein your interests mesh and complement each other, or wherein you take turns doing what each of you enjoys. If you both enjoy music but your tastes differ for example, you might try giving each other’s music a chance by checking out a live performance by her favorite artist one night and to enjoy a listening party of your own music the next.
There are literally dozens of things you can do together that will accommodate your own tastes and interests. If you both like the outdoors or dining out, there are almost limitless opportunities for you to try to run each other on to different things. Be flexible and try to be open to new experiences. You never know what new found passions you will develop until you give it a chance!
Easing the pressure
Throughout every stage of the relationship, you should avoid the urge to push each other into directions that one or both of you may feel strongly against. If your sugar baby detests spending time outdoors, there is probably very little you can do about that. Same goes for you if you hate watching movies and your sugar baby is a certified cinema buff.
In such scenarios, you may try gently suggesting that she at least try it out if she hasn’t done so already. Once you have given it a good try, it would probably be best to avoid pushing the issue further. Remember that you want your sugar baby to feel at ease within the relationship. Coercing her into doing something that she really doesn’t like will only push her the opposite way and it may be the cause of undue stress and conflict.
At some point, you may simply have to accept that you are both two different people and that you have your own interests. You don’t necessarily have to like all the same things all the time, and it is entirely possible for you to enjoy a mutually rewarding relationship despite your differences. In fact, your differences might be what will bring you closer together. If you can find a way to complement each other and to enjoy each other’s company without pressure, you will have found a solid basis for a harmonious relationship.