No matter how well you separate the two, there will inevitably come a time when your sugar dating relationship impacts on your personal life. Even the most discreet sugar daddy will eventually find it more and more difficult to keep his sugar baby a secret.
This doesn’t necessarily have to be a problem, of course. Some sugar daddies have reached a point in their lives when there really is no need to keep secrets and there is nothing to fear from anyone. For such fortunate individuals, they can pretty much live life as they choose according to their own rules, with no fear of judgment or repercussion.
There are also those for whom having a sugar dating relationship is career suicide or detrimental to family harmony. Whether it involves conservative employers, coworkers, family members, or young children, there are scenarios wherein sugar daddies would prefer to keep their activities separate from their personal lives.
In this article, we take a look at how the various aspects of sugar dating and personal lives can intertwine–and collide–and how you can deal with these situations.
When you would rather keep your sugar baby a secret
There are many reasons why a sugar daddy wouldn’t want the rest of the world to know about his sugar baby, and many of them are perfectly justified. Some prefer not to explain their decision to their friends or family members, while others simply want to avoid the judgment of other people.
There are also sugar daddies that work in sensitive areas of industry or in a very conservative work environment. In such settings, having a sugar baby may not be looked upon with a great deal of tolerance.
Still other sugar daddies have children that may be too young to understand why their father is now frequently seen in the company of a woman much younger than their mother. This particular scenario will be discussed in the next section.
What is inexcusable is trying to keep a sugar dating relationship a secret because you are still involved in another relationship. If you are still married to the mother of your children and you are interested in finding out how to keep your infidelity incognito, this article probably isn’t for you.
When kids are part of the picture
It can be especially tricky to keep your sugar dating separate from your personal life when children are involved. If you have young children that are a constant presence in your life, having them encounter that other constant presence in your life–your sugar baby–is practically inevitable. In most cases, it isn’t a matter of “if” as much as of “when”. If you still play a big role in the lives and upbringing of your children, and you spend a great deal of time with your sugar baby, they are bound to cross paths sooner or later.
If your children are old enough to understand the intricacies of adult relationships, the obvious solution would be to have a talk with them and explain who your sugar baby is to you. Make it clear to them that your sugar baby isn’t meant to take the place of their mother, and that you will still be just as present in their lives as you have always been. Hopefully, your children will understand your need for companionship. If not, you will simply have to live with keeping them separate from each other, as forcing the issue is out of the question.
Maintaining your privacy
You are totally justified in wanting to keep your sugar dating activities separate from your personal life if only to maintain your privacy. You don’t need to have your sugar baby become a part of every aspect of your life, particularly if you are only interested in a strictly business arrangement. Remember that sugar dating at its most basic simply involves providing for the financial needs of a sugar baby, for which you get companionship and other perks in return. Anything else will be subject to negotiation, but you shouldn’t have to feel obliged to have your sugar baby occupy a considerable part of your life if that is not what you want.
Of course, your sugar baby may have different ideas of what your relationship should be. She may have expectations of playing a more significant role, perhaps even assuming the role of a girlfriend or even of a wife. If that is acceptable to you, then there will obviously be little separation between your sugar dating life and your personal life. If it is not acceptable, then you have to explain the limits of your commitment to the relationship.
Keeping your personal space
Regardless of whether you are in a short-term or a long-term sugar dating relationship, you are well within your rights to keep your own personal space. Even in a romantic relationship, partners should be able to maintain a degree of privacy.
Don’t let your sugar baby encroach on your need to maintain your personal space. This is absolutely necessary for you in order to be able to grow and develop and to take care of yourself. Having this space gives you a breather from the demands of everyday life and your relationship. Without it, you would likely be on a short fuse all the time. Keep your personal space, use it to get refreshed and to recharge, and you will be able to return to the relationship with a much more positive and energetic outlook.
Not everyone is fortunate enough to have both a sugar dating relationship and a personal life. Those that do, have had to work hard to achieve it, and they continue to work hard to maintain it. It can be a struggle to keep up with the demands of a sugar dating relationship if you are concerned about preserving your personal life as well, but the results are often worth it. Don’t sell yourself short. Take care of yourself and the people around you, and you could have a happy and rewarding sugar dating relationship while still maintaining your personal life.