If you’ve recently made the decision to become a sugar daddy, you probably already realize what a big decision it is and what impact it will have on your life. If you haven’t, you will almost certainly learn soon enough how much it will change your life.
Having a sugar baby essentially means making room in your life for someone else. Although similar in many ways to traditional dating in which romance is a major component, it also has several unique aspects that will require specific actions and a specific frame of mind. Entering into a sugar dating relationship without considering all the implications thoroughly is practically a surefire recipe for disaster, and you will likely regret your decision sooner or later.
In contrast, assuming the role of a sugar daddy with the proper degree of reason and sobriety will enable you to make the most out of the arrangement. Even if you think you have already explored every aspect of what it means to be a sugar daddy, these tips could go a long way in making your life easier.
The financial implications of being a sugar daddy
Most people have the idea that being a sugar daddy simply means having a sugar baby at their beck and call and paying for the dates and occasional gifts. Although that is indeed a big part of your responsibilities as a sugar daddy, there is often a lot more to it than that. In most cases, you will likely be expected to provide financial support to a considerable degree, which means setting up your sugar baby in her own apartment or condominium.
But it doesn’t end there. You may also have to provide your sugar baby with an allowance, which may or may not cover food, clothes, bills for utilities, and other expenses. There are also dates and social events to consider, which adds even more to the regular expenses.
How a sugar baby can affect your life
Apart from the financial considerations, having a sugar baby can have an effect on many other areas of your life as well. Remember that this is a living, breathing human being you are dealing with, and she has her own hopes, dreams, goals, and aspirations. She will also have her own opinion, which can clash with yours on more than one occasion.
Having a sugar baby essentially means making room in your life for another person. Many sugar daddies make the mistake of treating their sugar babies as if they were employees or sex providers, which doesn’t make for a mutually rewarding relationship.
It is also worth noting that accommodating a sugar baby into your life will affect not only you, but the people around you as well. This can be especially tricky if you have young children, or even older children that are still dealing with the aftermath of your failed marriage with their mother. In such scenarios, you may come up against considerable resistance to your decision to have a sugar baby. If you are dead-set on your decision to become a sugar daddy, you will have to thoroughly consider what impact your decision will have on the other people in your life.
Your readiness to be a sugar daddy
One thing that many sugar daddies neglect to ask themselves is “How ready am I to be a sugar daddy?” Leaving aside the financial implications for a moment, becoming a sugar daddy requires a great deal of maturity, compassion, patience, and a willingness to become part of a relationship based on mutual respect and understanding. Entering into such a relationship with the idea that it is all about you–your wants, your needs, your desires, your decision–will almost certainly cause friction and conflict sooner or later.
When assessing your readiness to become a sugar daddy, ask yourself this: Are you really willing to have a relationship in which both partners have equal say? Would you be willing to concede to your sugar baby’s opinions and decisions even though you are essentially paying all the bills? If you can answer “yes” to these and other questions of a similar nature, there is a good chance that you are indeed ready to become a sugar daddy.
When things don’t work out the way you planned
Despite your best efforts, there is a possibility that things will not work out according to your carefully laid-out plans. You may find that your personalities are simply way too incompatible or that there are some character traits that you cannot accept. That being the case, the options available to you are: make an effort to make the partnership work or cut your losses and put an end to the relationship.
Now each of these decisions will have their own implications and each will require a specific approach. If you decide that the relationship is worth saving, you should make an effort to communicate your concerns with your sugar baby in the hopes of finding a common ground or some sort of compromise.
If on the other hand you decide that it is better to cut and run, you will have to communicate your decision in a firm and yet gentle manner that takes your sugar baby’s feelings into consideration. There really is no easy way to handle a breakup, but being honest and forthright is certainly preferable to letting the relationship deteriorate to the point wherein outright hostility becomes the norm.
Opening yourself to positive change
If all this seems to paint a picture of sugar dating as a difficult and overwhelmingly stressful situation, take comfort in the realization that it doesn’t necessarily have to be. A successful sugar dating relationship can be a wonderful thing, and it could very well be the best thing to happen in your life at this stage. Know what you are getting into and what you need to do in order to make it work and you could have a very rewarding relationship that you will find fulfilling on many levels.